Okay! So I am 15 and I am a metal head, political punk, with blue red and black hair 10 piercings, including two on my face. I am on the short-ish side. I like metal and Punk rock, screamo, and 80's hair bands I like to mosh and i am a slave to red lipstick and tim burton films. I skate, snowboard, paint and love to write and sing. I play drums. Why is this not okay with guys, it seems that no matter what i do guys refuse to see me as anything but one of the guys, what am i doing wrong, would you like me????
Guys 15-19 Perferred **all answers welcome though**?
You're only 15. Most guys in the 15-19 age bracket are pretty immature. Most guys (and their parents) prefer a girl that conforms to the social "normal" of a girl. Don't worry about it. If you're happy with who you are, and your friend like you for who you are, stay the way you are. If you conform and become more "girly," and get a boyfirend, he won't like you for who you are. He'll like the facade you're putting up, and when your true side shows, he'll grow distant, and hurt and break-ups follow.
Just wait till college. High school is when teenagers are punished for rebelling. In college, you can be who ever you want to be. There will be guys who like you for who you are, just the way you are. And besides, dating at your time is just used to gain status or popualrity. Honestly, what is the precentage of relationships that start in high school, last through college and beyond, and end in marriage. Very, very few. So just use this time to have fun with your hobbies and friends. And time to discover yourself, which I think you've already done. And besides, those social confirming girls usually end up in those socially conforming sororities. And can you see yourself in a soroity where they spend hours debating how to solve the "broken nail" situation or who is better, Ambercrobie or Tommy Hillfiger? I certainly can't. So don't change who are.
Guys 15-19 Perferred **all answers welcome though**?
for me, i would like you in a different way. It's maybe because of your environment and other peoples' environment they grew up to. People are biased in nature, and as long as you fit into a society's standards, you are not doing anything wrong
Guys 15-19 Perferred **all answers welcome though**?
they see you as a guy..becuase you act and dress like a guy.
you wont get any attention until you act like a woman
Guys 15-19 Perferred **all answers welcome though**?
You know naturally a guy likes girls
Guys 15-19 Perferred **all answers welcome though**?
I would say just be yourself, don't get all those piercings and listen to that kind of music if it does not bring you happiness. Your hobbies and interests are really cool, but I would say that it would probably be a good idea to start listening to some more mellow music because that will help you to become more of a lady while at the same time enjoying the hobbies and cool things that you like to do.
Kevin, 18
Guys 15-19 Perferred **all answers welcome though**?
guys dont want a tomboy that want a girly girl
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you should be true to yourself. Dont change for other people..only for yourself! You just haven't found the right person yet!
Guys 15-19 Perferred **all answers welcome though**?
being a boy, i would prefer a tom girl for a girly girl, i've always done that
Guys 15-19 Perferred **all answers welcome though**?
be who u r inside!!!! dont change!!!! i wasnt very girly girl and though the sme thing!! but i found a guy who loveed me for me!!!! just hang in there!!!
Guys 15-19 Perferred **all answers welcome though**?
Here is a clue, you say you play the drums, you get one point for not saying beat the drums, still, you have not taken lessons to support your drum playing! That means you are not serious about the instrument you profess to play.
Why do you feel that you have to spoil what nature blessed you with by sticking things in your face or where ever. All that says is,
"I do not know who I am, I am not happy with ME, here is a false image of my person for you to like!"
Who needs that?
Do you have a problem with reading comprehension or do you read?
Before you ask other to like you, why don't you try liking yourself first?
Guys 15-19 Perferred **all answers welcome though**?
no offense but I wouldn't really like you because of all of that screams I want attention. The thing that you are doing wrong is that you act like a guy and we don't want that. Your right and you shouldn't change the way you act and you should just wait for the person that loves you for you to come along. He is out their and is searchin. Don't give up and good luck